The Mother of the Groom

One of my fondest stories in the Bible is the one of Ruth and Naomi. If you aren't familiar with the story, Ruth listened to the advice of her mother-in-law, Naomi, not just because she was older and wiser but because she was trustworthy, kind and had Ruth's best interest in mind. Because Naomi was kind to Ruth the feeling was mutual and they had a loving relationship.

We are excited that Lindsey has been blessed with Nancy Oler, future Mother-in-law, who already loves her. You know what they say- how ever your future husband treats his mother, is how he will treat you. If he respects her- he will respect you. If he helps her-he will help you. If he is kind and loving toward her-he will be kind and loving towards you. Well...Bryan treats his mom with respect and loves her dearly. Wahoo! Praise God..and thank God!!!

I know our story isn't unique; there are many of you who might say, "My story is very similar." And I'm so glad! However, after talking to both Mothers-of- Bride and Mothers-of-the Groom I have to say...not everyone has a fabulous relationship with the in-laws. Did someone say-that's for sure! So my advice to you...when it's your turn to be one, be sure you do it right. We can learn from the mistakes of others AND the good example of others.

The past three week ends we've had so much fun going to wedding showers; celebrating with friends and family. This past weekend the Oler's friends gave the happy couple a shower so Bruce and I drove to Corpus Christi and stayed in Bryan's parent's home.

The Mother-of the Groom had flowers in our room with a goody box. The bed was comfy, the bathroom had all the necessities, her house was clean (that was a plus!) it smelled nice with candles burning, she had good snacks (ha) and most of all...it was obvious they love the Lord. There's just nothing sweeter, is there? The walls had pictures of Bryan and his brother from when they were younger. The pictures on the refrigerator door seemed to tell a story of their life. Bryan's PaPa, Calvin Nevels, had been a Pastor and is now with Jesus. The beautiful grand piano in the front room had been Bryan's dad's fathers, who played the piano professionally. It was obvious that family is important to the Oler's just as it is to us.

That first night as I laid in bed snuggled up next to Bruce, I said, "Feels kind of funny doesn't it? Sleeping in the home of Lindsey's future other family. It feels right though, doesn't it honey?" Bruce agreed and said, "They are really a nice family. I think we can share." We laughed. "Thank You Lord!" We both said, "Amen!"

Bryan and his dad took Bruce fishing while we ladies went to the shower. Nancy's friends were kind to host the shower and once again the Father's love was reflected by all.

My advice to you if you will one day be The Mother-of-the-Groom; Take Note!

Next time- Advice and encouragement for moms with boys during the season of wedding planning.

On my way to a dress fitting.

Much Joy!
The Mother-of-the-Bride